Okay, this one really hits close to home, something I am sure many of us have endured more often than we should, painful reminders, however, we become stronger for having survived them.
I am more than my body…
At various times of my life, I have been faced with judgement about how I look. Everyone has heard the saying “don’t judge a book by its cover” unfortunately this is easier said than done. People tend to make assumptions on the personality or character of a person based solely on physical and superficial traits, it is wrong and unfair. Our bodies are a vessel or a ‘home’ that houses our soul, our spirit, our intelligence, and all of the beautiful things that make up the very essence of who we are. Don’t get me wrong, looking after your body is important, but it certainly doesn’t define everything you are. If people only value you for what you look like on the outside, they are not the right people to have in your life. If you are putting yourself down, learn to look at yourself in a more compassionate way. Replace negative self-talk with positive thoughts, focus on all the special things that are wonderful about you, because your value as a human being is worth so much more than your physical body.
I am more than my past…
I’m sure many of us have been in situations that have seemed physically, emotionally and mentally hard. We’ve made choices that weren’t the best or found ourselves in a place where we felt we had no option. Some actions from our pasts can be devastating and although we wish we had a “delete” button for those things, we simply don’t, but we can move beyond them. Many years ago I made a choice, a bad choice that resulted in members of my family, and some of my closest friends at that time, walking away. It took me a number of years to love myself again, to build up my self-confidence, and to recognise that whilst I cannot erase the choice I made, I had to acknowledge it, take steps to make things right, learn the lesson, commit to never putting myself in that position again, and most importantly – forgive myself.
There are also times when we become a victim of someone else’s bad choices. Moving on from these experiences can require every inch of strength, courage, and bravery you have inside. Remember, you are a survivor, and have the opportunity right now, today, to write a new chapter in your book of life, to live your best life, to find your true purpose and passion. If it weren’t for my experiences, horrible as they may have been at times, I don’t believe I would have uncovered the strength, beauty, and positive outlook I have on life today. My past strengthened me for the incredible journey I started when I finally discovered that I was deserving of goodness. Don’t tell yourself painful stories about the future based on those memories of the past.
I am more than I think I am…
I can be my own worst enemy – “am I really enough?” – I have asked myself that question more times than I can count. We talk ourselves in to thinking we have no talents, no special gifts, and that we ‘lucked out’ in the ‘awesomeness’ gene we see in other people. When I was young it felt like everyone else around me could draw, create, sing, dance, and here I was, the boring one. I know now that I was wrong, so wrong, I was actually much more than I thought I could ever be.
There are 3 important things that are needed to help you recognise your greatness:
- Stop negative self-talk
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Stop trying to be who everyone else wants you to be, be the master carver of your own path
Realise you are special, you’re you and what you bring to the world is unique. Keep learning about yourself, keep exploring, keep committing to your passions and keep the people who value you in your life. Soon your talents will become clear to you and everyone around you.
“When I was a child, my mother said to me, ‘If you become a soldier, you’ll be a general. If you become a monk you’ll end up as the pope.’ Instead, I became a painter and wound up as Picasso.” – Pablo Picasso
When people judge you it’s not about you, it’s about them. It doesn’t matter what they think, it matters what YOU think. Don’t let anyone weaken your spirit because they don’t see you for your strengths.
Remember: I AM MORE!
She was judged….she did it anyway.
Shared with love, Karen xxx